In romantic relationships we often forget our best interests and let our focus drift away from taking care of ourselves. This is totally normal, and easy to do. However, at some point you must ask yourself: is he right for you? Having a partner should enhance your life, and if you don’t think that this is the case then you should reconsider why you are with this person. As frightening as being single can seem, it is better than being with the wrong person. Being single is a great way to find yourself without the influence of anyone else, and make room for the  right  person to walk into your life. So, consider the following points when looking at your own relationship.

Values

Do your values align with your partner’s? This can make or break a relationship, because if you have conflicting values then encountering problems is inevitable. Our values define who we are as people, and guide us through life. They influence the way we handle experiences, interactions and challenges. They represent what is important to us, and why. Because of this, you need to be in a relationship where neither you or your partner’s values are compromised. This doesn’t mean that you have to find someone who has the  same  values as you; it just means that your values shouldn’t contrast each other. You need to be able to accept your partner’s values, and he needs to be able to accept yours.

Interests

Similarly, it is important that you have at least some similar interests. You don’t need to like everything your partner is into, but it helps if there a few things you have in common. What are your hobbies? Do you play sport, or do some kind of art? What kind of music and movies do you like? Think back to how you first met and where the connection began. Did it spring from a mutual interest in something? Having shared interests is a huge help, because you will easily be able to agree on things to do. However, relationships are also a great way to take on new interests. Does your partner do something you’ve never tried? Now is the perfect time to give it a go!

Enhancement

As I mentioned above, relationships should enhance your life. You and your partner should complement each other. You should make each other happier and motivate each other to strive for achievements. You should make each other feel comforted and supported, and excited about the future. Furthermore, you should inspire each other to do good, and live your life well. If you find yourself being brought down by your relationship, or feel like you aren’t achieving anything, then you need to reevaluate your position. The underlying ‘point’ of a relationship, if you will, is to be happy and fulfilled. If this isn’t happening, then it’s time to get out.

Goals

Like values, goals are equally important in a relationship. If you’ve been with your partner for some time now, you should discuss your relationship goals to see if they align. What do you both want from the relationship? Do you eventually want children? Do you want to get married one day? Is travelling a priority for you? Where do you think you want to settle? If it’s early days you probably aren’t thinking of these things yet – and fair enough. Eventually, however, it’s important to make sure you are both on the same page and wanting the same things. Ask yourself if you are satisfied in your relationship and if there is a destination. Once you’ve established this, you will know where you stand.